Behemoth’s frontman Adam Nergal Darski attended his former bandmate Mateusz Śmierzchalski’s podcast on Youtube. During their chat, the frontman was asked how he deals with the attention of fans. Nergal stated that Red Hot Chili Peppers’ Anthony Kiedis inspired him to politely decline taking photographs when he doesn’t want to, which showed how Kiedis treated his fans.
The heavy metal band Behemoth is mainly known for pioneering the Polish extreme metal underground. This made the band gain a lot of fame and fortune since its emergence in 1991 and attracted many metal fans worldwide. Naturally, the fans wanted to take photos and get autographs from the band members.
Nergal talked about this in his recent conversation and described how Anthony Kiedis declined his fans’ wishes so respectfully that he was also inspired to treat them like this. It is nice to receive attention, but sometimes, a star may want to be left alone. Therefore, it is crucial to let the fans’ requests down easily.
Here is what Kiedis did that inspired Nergal:
“My good friend, he was telling me some stories with some iconic people in L.A. And one of my absolute favorite stories from his is… He was just a kiddo waiting outside some shows, and he would just come across Ozzy Osbourne. And he’s telling me, ‘Man, Ozzy Osbourne was cool. He let me take a photo. And they were super friendly and cool. And then I ended up at this party, and I see there’s fucking Anthony Kiedis standing in front of me, so I just approached him in the most polite way, and I just asked him’ — that is amazing; I love it — I just patted him on the back, and he just turned towards me, and I just asked him in a super-polite way, ‘Anthony, would you mind if I take a photo with you?’ And he goes, like, in an assertive way ‘Absolutely not.'”
He went on to say:
“I think it’s amazing. You know why? Because you actually… I mean, it’s cool if people do that. I usually do that, but on many occasions, fans, they’re just all over you. They don’t know where the boundaries are; they don’t feel that. You’re in a restaurant having a date with a lady, and [they approach you excitedly], ‘Can we take a photo?’ ‘No.’ And somehow, the Kiedis story inspired me to say ‘no’ in a very assertive but polite way.
So I have no problems with saying, ‘I’m sorry. This is a private meeting. I’m having a date. Hopefully next time.’ And I’m happy to see their reactions, which, nine out of 10, are, like, ‘I respect that. Sorry for disturbing. See you next time. Can I just shake your hand?’ ‘Of course, you can.’ And that is cool. And I developed that skill to say ‘no’ in a polite way because sometimes you must say no.”
You can watch the entire conversation in Parts 1 and 2 below.